Words
There are some words that are said that have a very powerful meaning. Once said they dig their way deep inside you and make you feel good about yourself, or feel consoled about something that is bothering you, or comforted because you know you are cared about. Such words include “Thank you”, “I’m Sorry”, “I’m glad to hear that.”, “I’m here for you” “I love you.”
Being initiated by someone speaking to you is where the strength of those words come from. They show compassion, empathy, and understanding. They exhibit feelings that are usually welcoming and supportive.
And even when you are the initiator in prompting the response and are responded to, they have strength.
Why is it that with some people, using these words is a sham? A demonstration not of caring but of obligation or a habitual reaction.
How many of you, when walking by someone you know, either say or hear, “How’s it going?” when in fact you nor the other person have any intention of sticking around to hear the answer. How about in a social gathering hearing, “It’s so nice to see you” to which a friend of mine used to always respond with “The pleasure is all yours.” As the person assumes what your response was and smiles in agreement before passing you by. Personally, when someone passes me and says, “How’s it going?” I either nod, wave or just say “Hi”. Though what I really want to do is stop and actually tell them exactly how I’m doing. “Well, I’m a little tired today. My cat is causing all kinds of trouble at home. And don’t get me started about my neighbors. OY!” You get the idea. But I don’t do that, because I don’t think I want to hear what they have to say. I’m satisfied with just a “Hi.”
Words have power, no matter what we say. So we should be careful in choosing the ones we use. Speak from your heart and your head. If you mean something, say it. If you care about someone, take the time to stop, listen, and respond.
